Relationships
Changing Yourself Rather Than Trying to Change Your Partner
We know – of course – that they urgently need changing. Where do we start with the problems? They are…
View
Full Article Index
Leisure
Why Small Pleasures Become a Bigger, Not a Smaller Deal, the More We Suffer and Age
The more challenging existence as a whole becomes, the more we may appreciate what remains pure and hopeful, despite its modest appearance or lack of obvious glamour.
Read Article
Leisure
What Should a Good Therapist Do For Us?
It can be hard to get a clear sense of how therapy actually works and what we would ideally gain from it. We propose that a good therapist should do the following:
Read Article
Leisure
What We Might Learn from the Dandies of the Congo
One is dressed not in order to be practical for the long-term, but in order to look awe-inspiringly beautiful today: to brighten one’s surroundings and gladden one’s friends and colleagues.
Read ArticleArticles
Select themes
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
Relationships
A Chance to Be Bad in Relationships
It sounds odd to suggest that one of the things we may most long for, and in a sense even…
View
Relationships
Four Kinds of Sexual Deviancy and What They Really Mean
We don’t typically imagine that sexual deviants have very much to teach us about anything. We tend to read of…
View
Calm
Keep Going
Giuseppe de Nittis, Winter Landscape, 1880 It’s early morning in the middle of winter and we’re in a northern suburb…
View
Relationships
When One Person Has to Be Needy so the Other Can Feel Invulnerable
Sometimes, without anything being explicitly said, couples come to certain remarkably awkward and sinister agreements between them about who might…
View
Relationships
Offering Love to Someone Who Is Not Convinced of Their Loveability
There are distinct challenges around trying to offer love to someone who isn’t convinced that they are, deep down, worthy…
View
Relationships
Using AI to Have Better Relationships
It’s understandably daunting to be invited to rely on a machine to do something that, throughout our lives, we’d believed…
View
Calm
The Letter You May Need to Send to Save Your Life
For very understandable reasons, we spend an enormous amount of energy trying to make sure that we come across to…
View
Sociability
Ideal Questions to Ask at Parties
There are – let’s suggest – very few truly boring people on earth, but a great many who end up…
View
Select themes
Relationships
A Chance to Be Bad in Relationships
It sounds odd to suggest that one of the things we may most long for, and in a sense even…
View
Relationships
Four Kinds of Sexual Deviancy and What They Really Mean
We don’t typically imagine that sexual deviants have very much to teach us about anything. We tend to read of…
View
Calm
Keep Going
Giuseppe de Nittis, Winter Landscape, 1880 It’s early morning in the middle of winter and we’re in a northern suburb…
View
Relationships
When One Person Has to Be Needy so the Other Can Feel Invulnerable
Sometimes, without anything being explicitly said, couples come to certain remarkably awkward and sinister agreements between them about who might…
View
Relationships
Offering Love to Someone Who Is Not Convinced of Their Loveability
There are distinct challenges around trying to offer love to someone who isn’t convinced that they are, deep down, worthy…
View
Relationships
Using AI to Have Better Relationships
It’s understandably daunting to be invited to rely on a machine to do something that, throughout our lives, we’d believed…
View
Calm
The Letter You May Need to Send to Save Your Life
For very understandable reasons, we spend an enormous amount of energy trying to make sure that we come across to…
View
Sociability
Ideal Questions to Ask at Parties
There are – let’s suggest – very few truly boring people on earth, but a great many who end up…
View
