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When We All Lived in Villages…
Of course, back then, when we all lived in villages, there were some grave problems. It was hard to get…
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Is There Something Wrong – or Am I Just a Miserable Person?
The beginning of more hopeful judgement begins with squaring up to how oddly prone to misjudgment we are – on the basis of how sad, fearful and unrepresentative our early experiences have been.
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How We Can Feel Misunderstood – Without Ever Explaining Who We Are
Did you ever explain yourself properly to the person who is meant to have ignored you? Did you work hard to make yourself known before surrendering to a sense of being unnoticed?
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What Does the Child in You Need Today?
We’ll accede to a fairer, calmer, kinder adulthood once we accept with grace how close we remain always to the delicate, sensitive, tear-prone little person we once were.
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How We Encourage the Behaviour We Feel We Deserve
We tend to assume that people are either very nice to us – or not – according to certain fixed…
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Relationships
Why We Should Treat Dates Like Job Interviews
Few things could sound as offensive and unromantic as to draw comparisons between hiring an employee – and getting together…
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Can Our Partners Change?
In many relationships, we may find ourselves asking, with continually renewed frustration, puzzlement and pain: ‘Why can’t they change?’ We…
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How to Work Out the Level of Emotional Maturity of Prospective Partners
Part of the difficulty of forming good relationships is that we can’t easily tell what the level of emotional maturity…
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The Mark of True Love: Simplicity
We humans have an immense appetite for complicated things. Neuroscience, astrophysics and molecular biology of course. But also barely decipherable…
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Eight Rules for Ending Relationships
We live – many of us – in highly policed societies where sanctions exist for the most minor infractions. We…
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Self-Knowledge
How We Respond When Life Gets Frustrating
Life is inherently filled with frustrations but how we interpret these frustrations – what we take them to mean, who…
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Relationships
The Psychology of Anxious Attachment
We might expect that the most natural response to being told by a kind, patient and attractive person that they…
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Relationships
How We Encourage the Behaviour We Feel We Deserve
We tend to assume that people are either very nice to us – or not – according to certain fixed…
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Relationships
Why We Should Treat Dates Like Job Interviews
Few things could sound as offensive and unromantic as to draw comparisons between hiring an employee – and getting together…
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Relationships
Can Our Partners Change?
In many relationships, we may find ourselves asking, with continually renewed frustration, puzzlement and pain: ‘Why can’t they change?’ We…
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Relationships
How to Work Out the Level of Emotional Maturity of Prospective Partners
Part of the difficulty of forming good relationships is that we can’t easily tell what the level of emotional maturity…
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Relationships
The Mark of True Love: Simplicity
We humans have an immense appetite for complicated things. Neuroscience, astrophysics and molecular biology of course. But also barely decipherable…
View
Relationships
Eight Rules for Ending Relationships
We live – many of us – in highly policed societies where sanctions exist for the most minor infractions. We…
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Self-Knowledge
How We Respond When Life Gets Frustrating
Life is inherently filled with frustrations but how we interpret these frustrations – what we take them to mean, who…
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Relationships
The Psychology of Anxious Attachment
We might expect that the most natural response to being told by a kind, patient and attractive person that they…
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