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When Evil Walks Into Our Lives…
One of our basic beliefs is that the people we come across will not, fundamentally, be bad or malevolent. We…
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Giving Up on People Pleasing
The people pleaser needs to learn an unusual and little-mentioned art: that of giving up on people.
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The Benefits of Forgetfulness
We are rescued from many of our sorrows not by active solutions or nifty work of the intellect but by our reliable tendencies to forget.
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What Are Germaphobes Really Scared Of?
It is tempting to have a laugh at germaphobes. Look at them cleaning the handle of the oven with powerful…
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Why Are Some of Us Hoarders?
We should start with a large caveat; one person’s ‘hoarding’ is another person’s ‘collecting’ or ‘not throwing things randomly away’…
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Politics, Mental Health and Virginia Woolf
It is a measure of how much we generally manage to keep political events separate from our internal functioning that…
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What Alien Delusions Tell Us About Our Minds
In psychiatric hospitals and consulting rooms worldwide, one of the more unlikely-sounding but very common presenting problems involves aliens. A…
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Relationships
On Being Terrified of Love
Whenever talk turns to being terrified of love, the implication is that the only people ever to be scared of…
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Relationships
After They Left
For years, we forgot all about ownership. It would have made no sense to ask who owned the little vase…
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Relationships
Six Reasons Why Being Single is So Awful
Modern culture can be particularly insistent on this point: mature people shouldn’t mind their own company. Mature people should understand…
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Relationships
Why Hurt People Hurt People
It’s one of the puzzles of relationships that, after a hugely promising few months or years, one of the members…
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Self-Knowledge
What Are Germaphobes Really Scared Of?
It is tempting to have a laugh at germaphobes. Look at them cleaning the handle of the oven with powerful…
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Self-Knowledge
Why Are Some of Us Hoarders?
We should start with a large caveat; one person’s ‘hoarding’ is another person’s ‘collecting’ or ‘not throwing things randomly away’…
View
Calm
Politics, Mental Health and Virginia Woolf
It is a measure of how much we generally manage to keep political events separate from our internal functioning that…
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Self-Knowledge
What Alien Delusions Tell Us About Our Minds
In psychiatric hospitals and consulting rooms worldwide, one of the more unlikely-sounding but very common presenting problems involves aliens. A…
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Relationships
On Being Terrified of Love
Whenever talk turns to being terrified of love, the implication is that the only people ever to be scared of…
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Relationships
After They Left
For years, we forgot all about ownership. It would have made no sense to ask who owned the little vase…
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Relationships
Six Reasons Why Being Single is So Awful
Modern culture can be particularly insistent on this point: mature people shouldn’t mind their own company. Mature people should understand…
View
Relationships
Why Hurt People Hurt People
It’s one of the puzzles of relationships that, after a hugely promising few months or years, one of the members…
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